Venus Day Thoughts

It’s a beautiful Venus day here in Northern California and I’m taking myself out on a solo date to a comedy show. I made a promise to myself to do so when I came out on rotation. It finally worked out with my schedule and a pretty funny and well-known comedian just happens to be here in the city I’m staying in.

As I doll myself up to seduce my creativity and inspiration for the ideas I intend to bring to fruition, I think about relationships. I am a single woman that is actively in the process of getting to know people and I look back at how different my mindset is from when I was dating before. I would meet someone new and cling to him very early on, as if he had ownership over me and I over him. However, I finally had a thought today, not of comparison to what women a man I’m interested in may also be getting to know, but a feeling of appreciation for him and I to be able to do so.

This sounds far-fetched because we’ve been conditioned to compete against one another, especially for the attention and affections of someone we desire. We want to belong and be loved and chosen. But what these self-dates and solo travels have taught me is to give it to myself first so that I’m not begging from someone else. People need the time to get to know themselves and then go out into the world and get to know others with the same grace and understanding. We don’t own each other, we get to experience one another and that’s a blessing. Of course, the goal is monogamy however until that happens, I like to wonder what someone has come into my life for, and I into theirs. And just be present.

This perspective is shifting my formerly anxious-attachment relationship style into one that’s balanced, healthy and interdependent. At the core, I am very certain that WHO is for me, will never pass me by as long as I am actively co-creating what I want to manifest. This is the power of Self-Love.

Thank you Venus.